Monday, May 4, 2020

The Irresponsible Jackass Movement.

The Irresponsible Jackass Movement
By Delilah Despised 

For a couple of weeks now I've been watching the Irresponsible Jackass Movement spout their dangerously reckless views on the government's response to the Covid 19 pandemic. Contrary to what they would like us to believe that response is not about denying anybody their constitutionally guaranteed rights nor is it about a nebulous nefarious plot by the NWO to take over America / the world. The government's Covid 19 response is nothing more than a responsible government's duty to protect ALL of it's citizens , especially it's high risk citizens , during a pandemic which could very easily turn into an epidemic of Biblical proportions if not handled correctly. Why these " tin foil wearing hat " conspiracy nuts of this movement insist that they know more than the very professional and knowledgeable medical people is a mystery for the ages. I am disappointed that way too many of them are emanating from the Conservative American demographic. I expect Liberals to be this stupid but to have Conservatives be this willfully stupid makes me think they have about the same smarts as the Che Guevera t-shirt wearing members of Snowflake Nation. I'm highly embarrassed by them and for them.  I keep hearing them quote the stat that 98.48 % of the citizens will either never get Covid 19 or recover quickly if they do.They never allow the other shoe to drop. I'm going to bring that other shoe down now with a massive thud.  Assuming for the moment that their figures are correct that is indeed a lot of people that will never get Covid 19 or recover quickly if they do. Their own figures also mean that 5,168,000 people will get it and die. That my friends would indeed be an epidemic that would touch probably every citizen in the country either directly or indirectly . I'm in the camp that doesn't want these irresponsible jackasses to have the right to play so fast and loose with so many other people's lives because of their right to be irresponsible and willfully stupid. Sorry guys but your right to be irresponsible and willfully stupid ends where it infringes upon 5,168,000 other people's right to stay alive. Better every one of these Irresponsible Jackasses is jailed than even 1 of the 5,168,000 die needlessly because of somebody else's irresponsibility and willful stupidity. We all can be absolutely certain that when a member of The Irresponsible Jackass Movement or one of their family gets infected as a result of their own irresponsibility and stupidity they'll be singing a different tune then. They'll also be looking for somebody , anybody , to sue. It's as certain as death , taxes and ORANGE MAN BAD !!!

Would somebody please drive a stake through the heart of the Irresponsible Jackass Movement beast and put it out of America's misery ---- QUICKLY !!!

Tuesday, December 24, 2019

The Delilah Files { Reputation Rape } N.M. Police / Authorities

The Delilah Files { Reputation Rape } - Jemma Beale 


By Paul Stanner 

Now that  the highly acclaimed , in feminist circles , Egyptian - American feminist Mona Eltahaway and her BolshiFem allies have declared war on men by advocating that women employ the use of " justifiable violence " against men The Gender War is officially on.. What is justifiable violence is of course left solely to the discretion of women. I was not shocked that a feminist would advocate this in the least nor that a sizable per centage of women seem to agree with her. I am also not shocked that the notion that women hold the higher moral ground simply by virtue of being women and are thusly predisposed by nature against the use of violence in spite of the vast amounts of contradictory evidence still pervades society. As an example of that pervasion it is a fact that women get about 1/3 of the prison time that men get for the same exact violent crime. I do find it disturbing that so many men seem to subscribe to this theory considering that female criminal behavior has been with us since the beginning of time right up until today. There needs to be a whole lot more education and exposure of violent and perverse female behavior. Men in general and MGTOW men in particular need to know that violent female criminals are capable of all the same disgusting behavior as violent male criminals and to learn how to protect themselves against these violent and cunning criminals. No longer will men in general and MGTOW men in particular remain passive when attacked by these Gender Terrorists in the hope that these deluded depraved and dangerous BolshiFems come to their senses or in the hope that society will bitch slap them forcefully as should have been done 30 years ago. In that regard The Delilah Files is going to do it's part beginning right now. 

I'll concede that when a man rapes a woman it is a very traumatic event that will leave emotional and psychological scars for life but it won't , at least in Western societies , cause her to lose her career , family or social standing since her name will be withheld from the public. Upon conviction the rapist will get severe prison time and justice will have been served. When a woman reputation rapes a man with a false rape claim it will leave leave emotional and psychological scars on him that although possibly of a different nature are no less harmful to him than the scars a woman suffers when being raped. Unfortunately all it takes for a man to lose his career , family and social standing is a mere accusation of rape. There is no presumption of innocence , no right to confront your accuser , and in many cases no right to a trial. All of the man's rights are ignored and invalidated because the current legal system says " women must be believed ". The man's name is also made public. Even if the man is found innocent at a trial the damage has been done and the court of public opinion has found him guilty and destroyed his life. In short neither the legal system nor the public gives a damn about the man. The women that are guilty of reputation rape very seldom suffer any consequences for their crime. What kind of a society that purportedly believes in and upholds human rights systematically eliminates the rights of half of their population in a misguided and very dangerous desire to protect the other half quite often unjustly so ? The good news is thanks to MGTOW I believe things are starting to slowly change as you'll see by the story below.

This reputation rapist comes to us from New Mexico and is the classic example of everything that is wrong with the system. If you are not shocked that this can happen in America than you are beyond hope. Take note of what this father says about The Black Lives Matter Movement at the end of this article. 

Adam Lowther was a busy man, traveling constantly for his work as director of the Air Force's Advanced Nuclear Deterrence Studies. But on the afternoon of August 30, 2017, he called his wife, Jessica, with good news: He would be home in time to take their two children—ages 4 and 7—to tae kwon do practice.
Little did Adam know that he was about to be forcibly separated from his children for half a year, and would spend more than $300,000 in legal bills trying to reunite his family after it was torn apart by the New Mexico Children, Youth, and Families Department (CYFD) on the basis of a false sexual abuse accusation. Now Adam and his wife are suing the police and child services officials for violating their rights, misleading other authorities about the merits of the case against them, and traumatizing their children.
They are suing, not just in hopes that they might recover some of their financial losses, but also to bring about institutional change. The experience has opened up the Lowthers' eyes to the inequities of the criminal justice system—and they don't want anyone to go through what they did.
"We never thought this kind of thing could ever happen," Adam told Reason. "We assumed that law enforcement was competent and we assumed that they obeyed the law. That was a wrong assumption, but that was our assumption."
In the middle of that August 30 phone call with her husband, Jessica heard a knock at the front door of their Albuquerque home. It was the police. They told her they had come to perform a welfare check on the kids.
"I'm sorry, a welfare check?" asked Jessica, according to a court transcript of the encounter"I don't understand."
Bernalillo County Sheriff's Deputies Catherine Smalls and Brian Thornton explained that someone from one of the kids' schools had called the authorities to report abuse. Jessica was baffled. She asked the officers if they were sure they had the right house. They were sure. She asked them to wait outside until Adam arrived at home. They agreed, but ordered Jessica not to shut the front door.
"I'm telling you, we take this stuff very seriously," said Smalls.
As if to illustrate this point, Thornton told Jessica that "if this was my investigation, you would be in the back of a cop car right now. You're obstructing our duty to check on the well-being of a child."
But it was not yet the county sheriff's investigation—it was CYFD's investigation. An agent from the department would be interviewing Becca, the Lowther's 4-year-old daughter, about abuse that she had allegedly reported to a teacher at school, according to the cops.
"I assume we're not going to tae kwon do tonight?" asked Jessica.
"I… yeah," said Smalls. "Pretty much assume that."
***
Adam grew up in Houston, Texas. He was an Eagle Scout and enlisted in the military when he turned 18. Later, he attended Arizona State University (ASU), eventually earning a Ph.D. in International Relations. In 2008, he joined the Air Force Research Institute. In 2015, he became director of the Air Force's Advanced Nuclear Deterrence Studies, a position that required top secret security clearance. He is also the author of several books on national security topics.
Jessica and Adam met at ASU through an organization for Conservative Baptist students. "We've been together since 1997," Adam says"Married over 20 years."
The Lowthers eventually settled in Albuquerque. In their third year there, as summer 2015 drew to a close, daughter Becca was a few days shy of her fifth birthday, and thus could not enroll in the local public school her brother attended. Instead, Adam and Jessica sent her to a private school, Calvary Christian Academy.
In the middle of her second week at the school, her kindergarten teacher, a woman named Betty DuBoise, called the authorities to report that Becca had claimed her father and brother sexually assaulted her. (Throughout this article, I refer to the two children using the pseudonyms "Becca" and "Charlie.") The Bernalillo County Sheriff's Office (BCSO) showed up at the Lowther residence within the hour. They told Jessica that Becca had been "very descriptive" about what had happened, but did not specify the exact nature of the complaint. When Jessica pressed them for more information, they rebuffed her, and said they would not give further details until after a therapist had interviewed Becca. Jessica asked if this therapist was on their way over to the house. No, the officers revealed. Becca would be taken to the therapist.
"You're going to take her away?" Jessica asked.
It was at this point that Smalls and Thornton decided there was "no reasoning" with Jessica, and asked her to step aside or be detained. Given no other choice, she let the officers inside to check on the kids. Jessica tried to explain to Becca what was going on, but Smalls stopped her because "that could be seen as coaching her."
Outside, Adam had been arrested when he arrived on site and placed in the back of a cop car. He told the officers that they couldn't enter his home without a warrant, but they said they didn't need one, citing a New Mexico statute that authorizes the police to take children into protective custody if the authorities have a reasonable belief that the kids are in danger.
Of course, the police also made clear that they always assume the kids are in danger, if that's what was reported.
"When we investigate things like this, whether it's an anonymous call or [whatever], we have to take these cases involving children at their word and at their absolute worst," the officers told the Lowthers.
In this case, the officers chose to rely heavily on the word of Becca's teacher, Betty DuBoise, who had known the child for eight days. What DuBoise had told the cops, the Lowthers would later learn, was that she had overheard Becca ask another student if he had a penis—a word the Lowthers claim she did not and could not have known. DuBoise then pulled Becca aside and questioned her: It was at this point, according to the teacher, that Becca claimed her father had touched her inappropriately and penetrated her with his finger. Her brother also touched her, DuBoise claimed.
In her short time as Becca's teacher, DuBoise had questioned the Lowthers about their daughter's habit of sticking her hand down her pants, according to Adam. They promised to talk to Becca about this, but saw it as normal behavior for a child her age, and evidently did not show the matter as much seriousness as DuBoise expected.
More than a year later, Deputy District Attorney Leila Hood of the Albuquerque Special Victims Unit would issue a letter to Bernalillo County investigators detailing her numerous reasons for declining to prosecute Adam—issues with DuBoise's statements chief among them. But the night of his arrest, the authorities simply presumed everything they had been told must be true.
"They made no effort to verify anything that the teacher had said," says Adam.
The police kept him in the backseat of a hot car for hours before finally taking him to the station around 10:30 p.m. Since Adam was under arrest and Jessica was "detained," the children were technically without guardians, and the state took them into protective custody. Adam would not see them again until March.
***
Within three days, the media had gotten a hold of the story. The Albuquerque Journal ran with the headline, "Nuke Expert at Kirtland Accused of Raping 4-Year-Old Girl." Adam's mugshot accompanied the article.
He was released after a week in jail, but couldn't return home. He also lost his job and security clearance.
"Adverse publicity created by the local news media coverage concerning your charges and allegations has had an adverse effect upon the Department of the Air Force," wrote Adam's boss, a general. "Your alleged off-duty criminal misconduct and subsequent publicity cannot be tolerated in your position which requires utmost trust and integrity during the development of Nuclear Deterrence Studies."
Meanwhile, for the Lowther's 7-year-old son, Charlie, protective custody was anything but. After all, he too stood accused of sexual abuse. The police took both children to All Faiths, a private organization that acts as a safehouse for local law enforcement. Detectives interviewed Becca for over an hour. They also interviewed Charlie for 45 minutes about abuse he may have either suffered or perpetrated. Note that at this point, Charlie was in state custody—the very authorities legally responsible for his well-being were also interrogating him about whether he should be considered a suspect in a criminal investigation.
Becca was also forced to undergo not one but two separate sexual abuse examinations. To say that these were incredibly intrusive would be an understatement: Nurses examined, and even photographed, her anus.
"My daughter was forced through several invasive exams of her private parts," says Adam. "She is petrified of doctors to this day."
The children were then sent to foster care for 48 hours. Afterward, CYFD allowed Jessica to get them back, but only under the supervision of her own parents, who were required to move into the Lowther residence and serve as "safety monitors."
But a few days later, CYFD again took custody of the children. At a September 5 hearing, Jessica's father had told a social worker that he did not believe Adam was guilty. The social worker promptly reported this to Maria Morales, who was the investigator for CYFD, and Jacob Wootton, the detective assigned to Adam's criminal case. Morales swore an affidavit alleging that Jessica was an unfit mother. Jessica lost custody again, this time for two full months. Becca and Charlie were separated—not just from their parents, but also each other.
***
It was a rough time for the family. Adam had to live with an elderly couple he knew from church. The children were in foster care. Charlie had a particularly difficult time, and met with his school counselor on 55 separate occasions—even threatening to kill himself. Jessica was home alone with the family dog, who passed away in late October.
Finally, on November 7, the children's court judge decided to return custody to Jessica. Wootton was furious, and confronted the judge in his quarters, where he fumed that returning custody to Jessica would ruin his criminal case against Adam. The exchange was overheard by Adam's attorney, Marc Lowery.
"I could hear a commotion coming from the judge's chambers," says Lowery. "I heard loud voices and when I looked in I saw the detective talking with the judge. They were arguing about the case."
The judge was unmoved by Wootton's ranting, and restored Jessica's custody anyway. Wootton's next move was to arrest Jessica. He did so the second she set foot outside the courthouse.
"This was malicious," says Adam. "I'm not sure what lengths there were to which [Wootton] would not go to get what he wanted."
In a criminal complaint filed against Jessica on the afternoon of November 7, Wootton claimed that Becca had told DuBoise—who was still her teacher, as mandated by CYFD—that during one of the supervised visits between mother and daughter, "mommy whispers in my ear not to say anything, to be quiet." DuBoise made this report on October 19, three weeks before Wootton arrested Jessica for it. The charge against her was "bribery or intimidation of a witness."
The cops took Jessica to jail, strip-searched her, and forced her to take a pregnancy test before releasing her on personal recognizance. Thankfully, the district attorney decided not to press charges, and Jessica finally got the kids back.
Adam's reunion took longer—much longer. Months later, in March 2018, the court allowed Adam to have supervised visits with his children. The criminal case against Adam had by then collapsed: Though the detectives had repeatedly threatened to go to a grand jury, they never did so, and thus actual criminal charges never materialized. In April, the court-mandated therapist opined that Adam was not a threat to the kids, and his custody was restored the next month. On May 31, the Lowthers sold their home and moved to Texas, understandably eager to put as many miles between them and the Albuquerque authorities as possible.
***
On September 14, 2018, the Lowthers filed a lawsuit alleging that BCSO, CYFD, Wootton, Morales, and three other specific agents of law enforcement had violated the family's rights and harmed the children.
The suit raised important questions about whether child services was acting in the children's interests, or in service of a dubious criminal investigation.
"Immediately after the removal and late into the night, the children were subjected to hours of forensic interviews," the Lowthers write in the suit. "The forensic interviews and physical examinations were conducted without a warrant or court oversight. CYFD, who was the guardian of the children, acted with indifference to the trauma caused by the forensic interviews and examinations. Indeed, the removal decision was made in furtherance of the criminal investigation—not to keep the children safe from harm. This itself was contrary to the children's interests and violative of their constitutional rights."
The lawsuit also made the noteworthy claim that DuBoise had "a history of legal troubles, including convictions for shoplifting and several lawsuits for failure to pay bad debts, which bears on her credibility." A copy of a private investigator's report confirming these allegations was obtained by Reason.
When reached for comment, Calvary Christian Academy's principal declined to answer any questions about DuBoise. According to Adam, she no longer works for the school, and her own attorney has had trouble getting in touch with her.
BCSO did not respond to a request for comment. A spokesperson for CYFD declined to comment, citing pending litigation.
The Albuquerque Journal, which had previously published Adam's mugshot under the "Nuke Expert Accused of Raping 4-Year-Old Girl" headline, covered the lawsuit more even-handedly in a subsequent article, "Lawsuit Says Sexual Assault Charge Is Groundless." This may have prompted District Attorney Raul Torrez to review the case, and on October 18, his deputy—Leila Hood, of the special victims unit—wrote a letter detailing the myriad reasons why the office declined to prosecute Adam. The letter was addressed to Jacob Wootton.
In Hood's opinion, Becca's statements to investigators during her safehouse interview conflicted with what she had allegedly told DuBoise. Hood quoted one of the doctors who had interviewed Becca: "She does not know the difference between truth and lie. She likely does not understand the concept of a deliberate lie, she feels no compunction to tell the truth because she is not cognitively developed enough to comprehend the difference." Hood also noted that investigators had fed Becca false information, calling the entire enterprise into question. In the district attorney's opinion, her father having benignly assisted her with toilet-related issues was a plausible explanation for whatever story she may or may not have told DuBoise.
Hood also had an issue with DuBoise's credibility, or at the very least her blind faith in Becca's stories. In the middle of Wootton's effort to stop Jessica from regaining custody, DuBoise had signed an affidavit that Becca had claimed her father was attending church with her, in violation of a court order. But this was impossible: Adam was wearing an ankle monitor, and Becca was under the supervision of a social worker while at church.
A polygraph examination administered by the Bernalillo Sheriff's Department also lent credence to Adam. The department had initially interpreted the test to mean that Adam's answers were "deceptive," but the district attorney conducted an independent analysis: Bernalillo had misunderstood the results, which were "favorable to the alleged perpetrator," according to Hood.
In filing their lawsuit, the Lowthers hope to recoup some of the estimated $300,000 they lost defending themselves. They also hope to discourage the authorities from handling child abuse cases in such a manner.
"I can only imagine how bad it is for other families," said Adam. "We want this to stop."
Indeed, while the Lowthers were financially well equipped to handle legal troubles of this nature, they still ended up having to borrow money. Other families who routinely deal with child services and law enforcement are often in even more precarious positions. Diane Redleaf, an attorney who represents families in child services disputes, told Reason's Lenore Skenazy that most of her clients are impoverished, and many are immigrants or racial minorities. Half of all black kids in the U.S. will receive a visit from child services, according to one study by the American Journal of Public Health. The state's coercive power to separate children from their parents is most often experienced by those with scant ability to fight back.
This is something that resonates with the Lowthers. Adam and Jessica are conservatives, but their experience with the criminal justice system significantly altered their thinking.
"Prior to this, I would never have called myself a supporter of Black Lives Matter," said Adam. "My view of law enforcement has completely changed."
The background info for this story came from Reason 

The Delilah Files { Reputation Rape } - Patricia Crosby - White

The Delilah Files { Reputation Rape } - Patricia Crosby - White


By Paul Stanner 

Now that  the highly acclaimed , in feminist circles , Egyptian - American feminist Mona Eltahaway and her BolshiFem allies have declared war on men by advocating that women employ the use of " justifiable violence " against men The Gender War is officially on.. What is justifiable violence is of course left solely to the discretion of women. I was not shocked that a feminist would advocate this in the least nor that a sizable per centage of women seem to agree with her. I am also not shocked that the notion that women hold the higher moral ground simply by virtue of being women and are thusly predisposed by nature against the use of violence in spite of the vast amounts of contradictory evidence still pervades society. As an example of that pervasion it is a fact that women get about 1/3 of the prison time that men get for the same exact violent crime. I do find it disturbing that so many men seem to subscribe to this theory considering that female criminal behavior has been with us since the beginning of time right up until today. There needs to be a whole lot more education and exposure of violent and perverse female behavior. Men in general and MGTOW men in particular need to know that violent female criminals are capable of all the same disgusting behavior as violent male criminals and to learn how to protect themselves against these violent and cunning criminals. No longer will men in general and MGTOW men in particular remain passive when attacked by these Gender Terrorists in the hope that these deluded depraved and dangerous BolshiFems come to their senses or in the hope that society will bitch slap them forcefully as should have been done 30 years ago. In that regard The Delilah Files is going to do it's part beginning right now. 

I'll concede that when a man rapes a woman it is a very traumatic event that will leave emotional and psychological scars for life but it won't , at least in Western societies , cause her to lose her career , family or social standing since her name will be withheld from the public. Upon conviction the rapist will get severe prison time and justice will have been served. When a woman reputation rapes a man with a false rape claim it will leave leave emotional and psychological scars on him that although possibly of a different nature are no less harmful to him than the scars a woman suffers when being raped. Unfortunately all it takes for a man to lose his career , family and social standing is a mere accusation of rape. There is no presumption of innocence , no right to confront your accuser , and in many cases no right to a trial. All of the man's rights are ignored and invalidated because the current legal system says " women must be believed ". The man's name is also made public. Even if the man is found innocent at a trial the damage has been done and the court of public opinion has found him guilty and destroyed his life. In short neither the legal system nor the public gives a damn about the man. The women that are guilty of reputation rape very seldom suffer any consequences for their crime. What kind of a society that purportedly believes in and upholds human rights systematically eliminates the rights of half of their population in a misguided and very dangerous desire to protect the other half quite often unjustly so ? The good news is thanks to MGTOW I believe things are starting to slowly change as you'll see by the story below.

This reputation rapist comes to us from Boise , Idaho. Note the crime that this woman was charged with for making this false accusation. I think the Boise P.D. did a great job in clearing this man but I'm disappointed that the woman that made the false accusation has not been charged with a more serious crime. It seems to me that the punishment the man would have faced had the accusation been proven valid would be appropriate in  all cases of false accusations.

A Boise woman who told police that a stranger forced his way into her car, made her drive to another location and then sexually assaulted her has been charged with providing police with false information.
Patricia Crosby-White, 25, was charged Thursday with a misdemeanor count of filing a false report to authorities, according to the Boise Police Department.
The incident was alleged to have occurred at 7:35 p.m. May 1.
Crosby-White told police that it happened when she was in her car in a parking lot near south Vinnell Way and West Overland Road. She said the man ordered her to drive to another part of Ada County and then sexually assaulted her.
Police released a photo of a possible suspect and later located him. They conducted a thorough investigation that included surveillance video from the parking lot, witness interviews, social media records and other electronic messages. They determined that Crosby-White knew the man and had planned to meet him at that location.
Ada County prosecutors reviewed the police investigation and declined to file charges against the man.

The Delilah Files { Reputation Rape } BIG Changes In India


The Delilah Files { Reputation Rape } - BIG Changes In India 


By Paul Stanner 

Now that  the highly acclaimed , in feminist circles , Egyptian - American feminist Mona Eltahaway and her BolshiFem allies have declared war on men by advocating that women employ the use of " justifiable violence " against men The Gender War is officially on.. What is justifiable violence is of course left solely to the discretion of women. I was not shocked that a feminist would advocate this in the least nor that a sizable per centage of women seem to agree with her. I am also not shocked that the notion that women hold the higher moral ground simply by virtue of being women and are thusly predisposed by nature against the use of violence in spite of the vast amounts of contradictory evidence still pervades society. As an example of that pervasion it is a fact that women get about 1/3 of the prison time that men get for the same exact violent crime. I do find it disturbing that so many men seem to subscribe to this theory considering that female criminal behavior has been with us since the beginning of time right up until today. There needs to be a whole lot more education and exposure of violent and perverse female behavior. Men in general and MGTOW men in particular need to know that violent female criminals are capable of all the same disgusting behavior as violent male criminals and to learn how to protect themselves against these violent and cunning criminals. No longer will men in general and MGTOW men in particular remain passive when attacked by these Gender Terrorists in the hope that these deluded depraved and dangerous BolshiFems come to their senses or in the hope that society will bitch slap them forcefully as should have been done 30 years ago. In that regard The Delilah Files is going to do it's part beginning right now. 

I'll concede that when a man rapes a woman it is a very traumatic event that will leave emotional and psychological scars for life but it won't , at least in Western societies , cause her to lose her career , family or social standing since her name will be withheld from the public. Upon conviction the rapist will get severe prison time and justice will have been served. When a woman reputation rapes a man with a false rape claim it will leave leave emotional and psychological scars on him that although possibly of a different nature are no less harmful to him than the scars a woman suffers when being raped. Unfortunately all it takes for a man to lose his career , family and social standing is a mere accusation of rape. There is no presumption of innocence , no right to confront your accuser , and in many cases no right to a trial. All of the man's rights are ignored and invalidated because the current legal system says " women must be believed ". The man's name is also made public. Even if the man is found innocent at a trial the damage has been done and the court of public opinion has found him guilty and destroyed his life. In short neither the legal system nor the public gives a damn about the man. The women that are guilty of reputation rape very seldom suffer any consequences for their crime. What kind of a society that purportedly believes in and upholds human rights systematically eliminates the rights of half of their population in a misguided and very dangerous desire to protect the other half quite often unjustly so ? The good news is thanks to MGTOW I believe things are starting to slowly change as you'll see by the story below.

Their romance began at work. She asked him out for coffee with her friends. He took her out for lunch. Dinners and walks in New Delhi’s Lodhi Gardens followed. Then, for 18 months, they were in a sexual relationship.
But last year, when Pavan Gupta* turned 24, his parents began pressuring him to marry. When they introduced him to a girl he liked, Gupta ended his relationship with his girlfriend, Geeta Jain, telling her he could not disappoint his parents. “I liked her but I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with her. I always told her I was an only child and would have to go along with my parents’ choice,” says Gupta.
In March, as Gupta was preparing for his wedding, Jain went to the Delhi police and accused him of rape. She said she had slept with him only on promise of marriage and, since he had not married her, consent was procured on a false pretext, making the sex rape.
“Even if I had misled her and told her I’d marry her, it still wouldn’t make the sex rape. How can consensual sex for over a year be rape?” asks Gupta.
Last month, the supreme court ruled that rape cannot be invoked in cases of consensual sex after a relationship ends and the man declines to marry the woman, for whatever reason. The judges said a clear distinction had to be drawn between the two. But the ruling is of no help to Gupta. His life has already been shattered.
His mother had a heart attack a week after she learned of the accusation against him. She died a few days later. His fiancee called off the wedding. He lost his job. His peace of mind was destroyed. The trial is dragging on because Jain frequently does not attend hearings.
Something strange is going on in India. Women are becoming more educated and confident. Pre-marital sex is on the rise – a hotel chain called StayUncle offers rooms for an hour or two to couples seeking somewhere to have sex. But at the same time, so are the number of women alleging rape on false promise of marriage.
According to the National Crime Records Bureau, a total of 38,947 rape cases were reported in India in 2016. In 10,068 cases – about a quarter – the women claimed it was rape on false promise of marriage. In Andhra Pradesh state, 45% of all rape cases filed in the past two years fell into the false marriage category.
“When a relationship ends, women who have had consensual sex make false accusations of rape under promise of marriage out of vengefulness, to hurt the man. Or they do it to extort money out of him, promising to withdraw the charge if he gives them what they want,” says lawyer Vinay Sharma.

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 Lawyer Vinay Sharma in his chambers in the city of Dwarka in north-west India. Photograph: Amrit Dhillon
Sitting in his tiny chambers in Dwarka, Sharma, who is handling 90 such cases, gestures discreetly to two families waiting for him on the other side of the glass partition. “The girl’s family has agreed to withdraw the charge in return for 500,000 rupees (£5,400),” he says. “Tell me, would any parent settle for money rather than justice if she’s really been raped?”
In many cases, false rape accusations are simply the result of parents covering up the “shame” of an unmarried daughter having sex. Research carried out in 2015 by journalist Rukmini Shrinivasan, who worked for the Hindu newspaper at the time, revealed that when parents discover their unmarried daughters are in a sexual relationship, their horror at potential “dishonour” to the family name leads many to make spurious allegations of rape, having first bullied their children into submission.
By their logic, saying a daughter has been raped is preferable to people thinking she is sexually active. Shrinivasan stumbled upon this finding after discerning a pattern in the charge sheets she examined in Mumbai. Time and again, it was the same story: the victim had been picked up in a moving car, given a drink laced with sedatives to render her unconscious, and raped.
The recurrence of the sedative-laced drink seemed striking. Then the penny dropped. “This allegation is important because it is necessary to show that consent was not given, to protect the girl’s reputation,” says Shrinivasan.
Sharma supports her findings. He says the same story can be found in 50 of his 90 cases. “Only the names, dates and locations are different, otherwise they all narrate the story of sedatives and drinks when in fact the girls were in a relationship and willingly having sex,” he says.
Shrinivasan’s research into the 460 rape cases that came to trial in New Delhi in 2013 revealed that “more than one third turned out to be cases of couples having consensual sex outside marriage but, when the parents found out, they went to the police to end the relationship”.
Men’s rights groups and some lawyers believe these false allegations of rape by women who have been in consensual relationships trivialise the seriousness of rape. They raise plenty of questions, too. Even if a man promised to marry a woman, can he not change his mind? How can judges determine a man’s sincerity or falsity in talking of marriage?
Even more troubling is that the notion of sex constituting rape if a man “reneges” on a promise of marriage is not in the penal code. It has evolved on a case-by-case basis as a result of judges choosing to interpret the notion of “consent” in this fashion. As a consequence, men can be charged with rape if they falsely obtain consent for sex by promising to marry a woman and then changing their mind.
The only solace for men who have been falsely accused is that many of these cases are thrown out of court. The supreme court ruling last month, for example, related to a nurse at a government hospital in Maharashtra. She was a widow who fell in love with a doctor and moved in with him. After living together for some years, he left her and married someone else.
The judges said that having lived with the man for some years, the nurse could not allege rape. They pointed out that it was possible the doctor, on account of circumstances he could not have foreseen or could not control, was not able or willing to marry her. Whatever the reason, it was not rape. The doctor was acquitted.
But between the arrest and the acquittal lies much distress. Jeevan Kishore is married with two children and works as a “halwai” or sweet maker in New Delhi. He started a sexual relationship with a much older woman who was separated from her husband and had two children. “She was financially in bad shape. I used to lend her money, pay for her rent sometimes, and for medical costs if her relatives back in the village fell ill,” says Kishore.
When her young son fell ill, Kishore paid the hospital bills. When he died, he paid for the funeral. Then, he says, she began demanding larger and larger sums of money. “She told me if I didn’t give her the money, she would accuse me of rape. I was dumbstruck,” he says.
Eighteen months ago, that’s exactly what she did. Last month, he was acquitted. “My wife was angry with me over my unfaithfulness but she knew I was incapable of rape. I thank God the judge realised it was a false case. But for 18 months, I burned with shame every time I went out or met anyone,” says Kishore.

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 Vivek Deveshwar, a software engineer in Bangalore who runs a men’s rights group. Photograph: Amrit Dhillon
Vivek Deveshwar, a software engineer in Bangalore who runs a men’s rights group, has come across far too many shattered men. “Their trust in human relationships is destroyed. They withdraw into a shell, not knowing who they can trust and they are very frightened of embarking on another relationship,” he says.
He believes that parents who make false allegations of rape are encouraged by the fact that rape victims’ identities are not revealed. Consequently, there is no social embarrassment. “I believe a man’s identity should also be kept secret until the trial is over and a verdict has been reached. It would spare innocent men a lot of anguish,” he says.
Seema Misra, a lawyer in New Delhi, says that false cases under breach of promise to marry are a “huge” issue, one that she finds upsetting. “There is a limit to how far women can portray themselves as victims. At some point we have to take responsibility for our actions – 90% of the cases I have seen are false,” she says.
For feminist lawyers like Misra, the subject is fraught with problems. They realise that such cases reflect the premium put on a woman’s chastity by a very patriarchal society – no unmarried woman can be seen to be sexually active outside marriage – but oppose the abuse of rape laws.
Many observers feel that false claims brought by women who argue they were duped into losing their virginity serve only to undermine efforts to promote gender equality. “These cases should not be treated as rape. If we are talking of women’s agency, then we can’t have it both ways,” says lawyer and activist Vrinda Grover.
Grover believes that last month’s supreme court ruling will help in setting a precedent for the lower courts to follow. Ultimately, though, she believes the legal system must find another way to give women justice if they have suffered harm at the hands of a man. “The system needs to offer some form of relief – either damages or in some other way – because desperate women are resorting to the rape charge, which is wrong, but that’s because they have no other remedy. The law needs to develop a different perspective,” says Grover.
In the meantime, she worries that false charges of rape over consensual sexual relationships serve only to dilute genuine cases and distort the debate about rape in India. On this, Deveshwar concurs: “The tragedy is that with so many false cases, genuine victims of rape may find it harder to get justice.”
* Names of the accused men have been changed to protect their identities
The background info for this case came from The Guardian